What is beauty?
Often people say beauty is skin deep…
Often people say beauty is in the eye of the beholder …
Often we are told what beauty is by culture and media…
The media seem to be portraying images of humans and nature in completely different ways. Nature that may have a ‘flaw’ like a tree with exposed twisted roots or a wilted flower may become a seen beauty, but the person with ‘flaws’ may not. The world is full of beautiful people, some that have ‘outstanding almost perfect’ faces and bodies, some that beauty just simply shines out of them. Media can however have the power to control in so many ways, that we have to be careful not to fall for their ideas of beauty. Life full of photographic airbrushing, plastic surgery and unreal lives. We really need to get past that.
So what is beauty? It’s something that we can all possess through our attitude, behaviour and actions. Looking at inner beauty may take some practise especially if your not accustomed to see it clearly. I had a recent discussion with someone, they were telling me about a person who was ‘punching above their weight’ (apparently this means that one person is extremely attractive whilst the other is just plain or considered to be ugly). I’ve got to tell you I was absolutely shocked. They went on to tell me that others had commented that they found it amazing that this man had ‘pulled’ such an amazing attractive woman, even married her. My mouth nearly dropped to the floor. Actually I was more than shocked I was in total disbelief. Why was the man considered unworthy and the woman more worthy because of their ‘looks’. Is this really the conclusion that we have come to in society.
Beauty is so much more than the layers we see outside, we are more than just an outside layer. First of all peoples so called ‘flaws’ are extremely attractive. That quirky smile, the lines on their face when they speak, the eyes that tell a thousand stories. The way they carry their body shape. Do we ever stop to think that flaws are perceptive, we only believe they are flaws because we are told they are. We are all so different, we should really get passed the outside and see deeply inside. Some people ooze with beauty inside you don’t even notice the outside you are just drawn to them, they can make you feel comfortable, safe and at ‘home’. You may spend five minutes in their company and feel like you’ve known them for five years. You may find an instant attraction and you just don’t know why. Their character is so captivating and it overflows with attractiveness.
I also think we have to take some personal responsibility to also not believe the hype. To not turn on ourselves. You have to learn to love yourself, beauty is within us and you have to learn to love it. If we see it, we show it. Remember physical beauty is superficial and it is not as important as your intellect and emotional qualities. As soon as you start to see and feel this you start to appreciate everything your body is. It’s not just a object to look at, it has functions, it is amazing what it does and how it works. Your face doesn’t look like anybody else though there may be similar features to others. You may even remind someone of someone else but you are unique. Your mind can be so creative so intelligent that you should want to share this with others, not held back because you are deemed not beautiful enough. It’s time we celebrated who we are, if you don’t start loving yourself how can we expect others to start to love us in this day and age. Acceptance is the key! Acceptance of ourselves and others. Look past the front cover even if you admire the front cover, the pages need to be read.
When you next look in the mirror tell yourself you are beautiful. When you next see someone else tell them they are amazing.
Get out there, make your mark, stand tall beautiful people!